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lead your kids from fighting to friendship

Does the constant fighting, loud screaming, and mean words between your children make you feel hopeless?

It’s totally normal to feel frustrated by all the conflict.

Your kids’ drama can bring up all sorts of emotional baggage from your own upbringing. It can feel like you’re failing them when…

  • You are constantly triggered by your little people screaming angrily at the top of their lungs.

  • Your kids go from best friends to enemies in a split-second.

  • They seem to find joy in annoying, bullying or physically hurting each other.

  • You try so hard to stay neutral, but there is still jealousy and fairness complaints, particularly from your more challenging child.

How are you supposed to know when to step in and when to let them figure it out on their own?

 

There is so much you can start doing to help your children be lifelong friends when they are adults! 

And there is so much you can stop doing that will make it more likely that they respect each other's differences and cheer each other on with kindness.

You want your kids to…

Treat each other with warmth, kindness, and respect.

Resolve their own conflicts with creativity like teammates.

Genuinely enjoy each other and develop a deep and lasting friendship.

 

Is that too much to ask?

NOPE! But it requires some brand new communication skills from you.

What you need is a solid foundation to create a family environment with less conflict and more affection.

Hi, I’m Mary Van Geffen, and I’m a mom just like you.

Let’s be clear that parenting my children did not come naturally to me. I had no idea what it looked like to stay tender in the midst of defiance and unexplainable explosive emotions. In the early years, there was a lot of yelling, disrespect and anger… from both of us.

Then, when my Spicy One™ turned 5, I started a life-changing spiritual journey to see the goodness of my child. I was determined to stay calm, kind and firm no matter what they were doing! This deep work into my own childhood and non-violent communication techniques allowed me to make space for the exceptional young adults my children have become.

My great joy is to serve families struggling like mine once did and support them in their own healing journeys. I’ve coached hundreds of moms across the globe to transform the relationship they have with their larger-than-life kids.

Imagine how it would feel to…

>> Experience less fighting and more moments of cooperation.

>> Watch your kids state their needs and negotiate solutions together.

>> Raise kids who respect each other's limits and differences and give each other grace.

>> Know your kids will be close when they're adults because they actually enjoy each other now.

This is 100% possible for you.
Let me introduce…

  • In this class, you will learn to...

    Handle bickering, mean words & physical aggression with confidence.

    Respond to jealous energy and comparison complaints with intentional communication techniques.

    Teach your kids how to resolve disagreements & conflict without physical or emotional violence.

    Purchase the class for $79!

“I loved diving deeper into sibling relationships! Man, the way Mary flushes things out left me so encouraged with so many good things to think about.”

— Rachel, class participant

Here’s what to expect:

  • Class Videos

    This two-part recorded class is accessible immediately online to view at your convenience.

  • Worksheets

    Two downloadable worksheets accompany each part of the class. Each provide space for class notes and personal reflection.

  • Coaching Call

    View the recorded coaching call from July 2022 at any time to solidify the content learned in the classes.

What if you could parent in a way that helps your kids become future lifelong friends, while bringing less drama and more kindness to the now?

Imagine the future…

  • CALM

    You are able to stay neutral and calm during conflict, even when the volume of bickering is loud and your children have come to the end of their limited relational skills.

  • BALANCED

    Your mild child builds their confidence to stand up for themself and state their needs while your Spicy One™ learns to have empathy and see how what they do affects others.

  • RESPECTFUL

    Your children are kind and respectful to each other. They work through problems like teammates, have each other’s backs and are happy about their sibling’s successes.

  • FRIENDLY

    Your adult children have become lifelong friends with a beautifully mature relationship. They support each other and enjoy spending time together after you’re long gone.

No one should have to do this alone and lonely like I did.

I want to normalize the intense spiritual work of staying gentle on this journey. I want to help you tend to the child in front of you as well as the child within you. 

Together, let’s quiet the noise of the judgmental world that tries to make you feel unprepared for this big job.

My mission is to help equip moms to tolerate the everyday tensions of parenthood and stay in their most loving self. 

“This class helped me reframe for myself how I think about my children’s conflict to see it in a more positive light.

This chills out my fears and reactionary emotions, which means I'm not adding to the crazy energy.”

— Norah, class participant

Frequently asked questions:

  • The two recorded classes are about 45 minutes each. The recorded live coaching session is under 1 hour.

  • This class is intended for parents of multiple kids between the ages of 2-10.

  • Yes, they are welcome to view the class with you!

  • Nope. While I personally identify as a deconstructing, radically affirming Christian, no religious affiliation is specifically associated with this class.

    I do believe parents need the benefits that come with opening up to a higher power, but how you define that is up to you.

  • Your purchase grants you access to all class materials (and any successive updates or revisions) for as long as I sell this class, which I plan to do for a very long time!

Have further questions? Send the team an email here.